2.8.6 Communication

Communication is about complex dynamics of two human beings in interaction.



  1. I never react to you, it is always: you-plus-me
  2. It is: I-plus-you reacting to you-plus-me
  3. ‘I’ can never influence ‘you’ because you have already influenced me; that is, in the very process of meeting, by the very process of meeting, we BOTH become something different.
  4. It is I plus the-interweaving-between-you-and-me meeting you plus the-interweaving-between-you-and-me, etc
  5. If we were doing it mathematically we would work it out to the n-th power
  6. Human individuals, reciprocally influencing each other, thereby co-creating each other over time, with the result of both partners becoming I and THOU
  7. Buber describes this as: you “act” on me like I “act” on you (ibid., p. 11). He adds to this that relation implies reciprocity: “my Thou acts on me like I act on him” (p. 16).
  8. Men/women are born to relate and communicate. Follett: “response is always to a relation”
  9. Buber views the I as a result of the web of relationships: I and Thou are weaving each other within a web of relations.
  10. Co-creating organisms, operative as complex dynamic entities, are “both the weaver and the pattern it weaves” 
  11. Self-amplifying loops are caused by small changes in the direct effects on the other showed to generate a potential large, nonlinear increase in the loop effect, operating as a multiplier effect.
  12. Bootstrapping, self-bootstrapping and mutual bootstrapping in interaction. Bootstrapping mechanisms may now be taken as underlying these bootstrap processes, operating as learning mechanisms (see Carey, 2009).